It is the dream of every woman to find her own prince
charming and Mr. Right, get married and be called Mrs. It is a dream they have
harboured in their hearts since they were little. And when that husband comes
in a package wrapped with success, the promise of life abroad and access to the
good things of life, many women are likely to throw caution to the winds.
Unfortunately for some, reality may sometimes be different from dreams and they
find themselves trapped in between two worlds, neither married nor single. The
story as reported bothers on distant marriage.
My younger sister
called me one day to tell me she had something very urgent and important to
discuss with me. When she arrived, she looked very worried and heart broken.
She told me I must believe whatever she tells me because she is my sister and
will never deliberately hurt me. She said she had fought seriously with the
story she was about to tell me on our behalf. However, they have been able to
prove their case beyond any doubt to her and she had no choice but to let me
into it.
“She began by asking a barrage of questions, what did Cole
tell you he was doing abroad? Why did he say he has never been married? What
would you say if it were your brother who said he had never been married at
that age, would you not ask questions? She finally concluded that Cole is a big
liar and has been lying all along”.
She said her friend who is a friend to the younger sister of
Cole’s friend told her that Cole is married to another woman. They also have
two teenage children; a boy and a girl all living together. All I have been
told is a lie and Cole married me just to please his mother who insists he
marry someone close to home, she continued. At this point, I felt the blood
drain from my head, face and body growing limp. I didn’t know I had slumped until
I woke up to see my sister standing beside me. My blouse and hair were soaked
with water, I was told I passed out, I felt my life has been ruined.
I asked my sister if she had told anyone yet and she said she
wanted to tell me first before telling our parents. So I begged her not to tell
anyone just yet, I needed to do my own investigations. It was then that some of
the things I had seen started making sense to me.
One day, Cole and his mum were discussing on the phone and
when she wanted to hang up, she started talking about greeting the children and
their mother. I concluded she must have been referring to his younger brothers
and their families. It never occurred to me that the children she used to ask
about all the time were Cole’s. If their mum is a foreigner, it would mean also
that I have a good guess of who these children could be. Several times, I’d
seen pictures of some foreigners in the family album but I never thought to ask
who they were. Come to think of it, I had seen pictures of the same kids on
Cole’s phone and he told me he is their Godfather but people know them as his
children because they spend a lot of time at his place. It made sense because a
bachelor’s apartment could sometimes be very conducive for almost any activity,
especially for young people. Within me, I had concluded that they were going to
be part of the people I would have for company when finally I move to my ‘so
called’ husband’s house. I never knew I was fooling myself.
I couldn’t hold back my anger and anxiety that night. He
would always call but I put the call through that day and it was the first
question I put to him. He asked if I am crazy and who had told me such bogus
stories. I didn’t know how I answered him but I know I was shouting and calling
his name. By the time I finally asked what he was planning to do with me and my
daughter, I didn’t hear anything from the other end only to realize he’d hung
up.
This could be similar to what is happening to some so called
foreign husbands-look before you leap.
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