Only if I had waited more, atleast, the true him would have
been revealed. I should have known he is a shadow of himself. I wish I never
allowed my emotions control me. Those were the words of Jane as she watched her
3 years marriage crash like a pack of cards. It only produced a kid, short
lived with so many disagreements before she finally gave up on it without
thinking twice.
It started back in summer 2009, I was on leave so decided to
spend some quality time admiring nature, she continued with her story. Just
gazing at the way fun lovers were enjoying their sun-bath with couples holding
hands and taking a stroll off the river bank, I wish he never died, but their
was little or nothing I could do to deliver him from the cold hands of death.
Only if he had listened to me and cancelled that trip. Craig
was more than a friend, he meant everything to me, I doubt if his kind exists,
but he died anyway.
At about the time I feel I should take a break for my
favourite TV programme-cartoon network, I felt someone’s presence behind me.
I’m sorry if I intruded into your privacy, he said innocently. No you didn’t,
just that you remind me I had to take my leave. He is quite handsome and gentle
looking. Apparently he came alone, birds of a feather they say flock together
so sticking with him wasn’t a bad idea. It seems you came alone, he enquired, I
reluctantly replied with little or no interest in his conversation. Little did
I know that Chris would later become my better half. By the way, I am Chris and
I choose to address you as a cool damsel going by your mood, he continued.
Seeing that my response was almost repulsive, he questioned if he should leave,
but I thought it was bad way of welcoming someone you just met. I told him I
was only thinking of how fast I could meet my parents the following day. I gave
in to the discussion and off we went. His words were reasonable enough that we
exchanged pleasantries. Not too long after our first meeting, we became
friends, seeing each other more often. Six months into it, I got engaged and
within some few months, our marriage plans were underway. As the date was
fixed, it seemed as if it triggered misunderstandings, disagreeing on every
little thing we did. I initially saw it as the inevitable in ‘about to weds’.
Few days to the D-Day, I was prompted to check his diary for some directories,
lo and behold, I saw a list of her ex’s. Some lasted for just one month, others
3. It then downed on me I was dealing with a three month man, I wish I never
accepted or perhaps I’m the special lady. I had to go on with the marriage even
when I have developed a cold feet, I wish I had waited more.
Jane is hardly the first woman to say I do when her heart
wasn’t in it. Thirty percent of now divorced women say they knew it was wrong
from the start. According to recent research conducted by experts, they
admitted making a mistake as they walked down the aisle, only a handful backed
out.
The obvious question is; if you know you are marrying the
wrong guy, why do it, and what takes the blame thereafter. Why do that which
you will regret later in life. Why enter into this lifetime contract when you
know the conditions are not favourable. Just a little bit of time would have
crossed the t’s.
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