Ever thought of what could have possibly made that gentle
looking guy drink himself to stupor all alone in a bar, talking and smiling to
the empty bottles, provoking virtually everyone that comes his way with some
kind of light verbal assault. There could be just two reasons for such actions.
Its either his means of livelihood has hit the rocks or he is a victim of
broken relationship.
Other times, you find a lady being unreasonably harsh with
such an offensive reply and lack of concentration in everything she does. Look
inwardly and you will discover she is battling with an emotional stress. Though
most ladies prefer to sober, remain calm and praying for a possible come back,
others do the opposite.
Most times, the scenario can depict a typical house of
mourning for the aggrieved party especially when she has tried everything
possible to make it work. A break-up in a relationship can be so sad, no matter
how hard we try to come over it, it’s a wound that takes time to heal, if you
break up today and pick your pieces same day, then it wasn’t a relationship
from the outset, perhaps you were acquaintances. A break up in a smooth sailing
relationship is difficult to bear, depression and misery sets in, but it’s not
the end of the world. It’s an injury that only takes time to heal.
It’s important that you understand that nothing you do or say
causes a person to fall out of love with you. At the same time, no matter how
hard you force yourself on someone, if he is not for you, he is not for you.
Loving a person dearly is not a guarantee the person will love you back the
same way. Sad though but it’s a bitter truth.
Despite how unhappy the situation has made you feel, you
cannot turn back the hands of time. In desperation, you may decide to beg, pray
or even try to blackmail the other party to change his/her mind but things do
not work that way. The fact is that the love that ones existed has gone sour.
The sooner you realize you’ve parted ways, the better for you. The most
important thing is if you were able to learn from your mistakes.
If your partner calls it quit with you, you have two choices;
accept and move on or wallow in self pity. Attempting to stay in a relationship
where your love is no longer reciprocated is not only self destructive but
belittling. Letting go is the most difficult but smartest thing to do at that
particular point in time, you never can tell, that closed wooden door could be
a link to opening a much better metal door. If you want a quick recovery, just
take a snap out of it, wear a new cloth of life, make new friends, see it as
one of those things one meet in life that makes everything look like a
challenge. Your world will not crumble just because one person refused to
picture in it. Take time to discover other people and you will see the world
has a better thing to offer. Before you say Jack Robinson, you will be sure to
find someone who appreciates and value your kind of person and give you a
significant place in his or her life.
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