BE CAREFUL WITH WHAT YOU VALUE

Marriage in the right perspective is not a temporary contract. It is a life time union devoid of separation unless by death. With this understanding, it implies that it is an unconditional conscious attempt of two adults who have agreed to live together as husband and wife. It is unconditional with respect that no excuse is excusable before God for the dissolution of marriage. Bearing this in mind, it therefore behooves anyone planning to join this institution to indeed count the cost before embarking on it. Proper and careful considerations should be given to the proposal and acceptance of marriage partnership.

Your ability to evaluate your values guarantees the success of your marriage. People occupy different positions in life from where they see things from different perspectives. The level of value you place on anything determines the height of your attraction or attention to such a thing. Indeed, it is not realistic to make one thing your priority and be a master in another. your value in life determines your interest.

It is not a gain saying that so many who are struggling to continue in marriage did not properly place their values. Their wrong placement of values made them choose one whom they are not compatible with. This indeed is a tragedy. Once there is a wrong value placement, there is bound to be crisis. The reason is that sooner or later, the reality of the right value comes to play, but more often than not; the choice would have already been made.

Yes, no one is perfect, and no one as well is expecting a perfect marriage but atleast, get close to perfection. Your decision along the line determines you’re the outcome of your finish line. No human being is really an angel looking for a blameless damsel to marry. There is no completely perfect marriage but you must endeavour to build an ideal one which should be enviable. However, this can only be possible when your value is placed around Godly character.

It also worth it to formulate ones value around integrity. Integrity is a long term character trait. This guarantees protection from life from life undue harassment. Jeanette Winterson (2012) asserts: “when I say I will be true to you, I am drawing a quiet space beyond the reach of other desires”. Integrity partners with honesty in life. It is being what we say we are. These are two powerful forces that preserve one along life’s way. We gain trust in life through honesty which boosts our integrity. Integrity enhances the ability to keep a clear conscience before God and man. This is inevitable in any good marital relationship. It is very vital for peaceful co-existence. It differentiates you from the crowd.