Flora swallowed everything Desmond told her about working
late, being on night duty and occasional business travels. She had no course to
believe or doubt him. They were the closest couple in their neighborhood and
their friends have always admired their closeness. It was a joke shared amongst
their friends that should Desmond ever cheat on Flora, he would be the person
to confess or die of guilt. Those talks were words of assurance to her until that evening when a young lady visited
with a baby strapped on her back. Flora was the last to know even though her
mind often warned her to look more closely. She should have taken the recent
signs more seriously.
When you get suspicious that your significant other is
cheating, be careful not to ignore the signs but you have to walk a fine line.
You don’t want to make false accusations. It’s hard to be sure if someone is
cheating, but protect yourself: be vigilant and pay attention to your mind and
spirit within the relationship. At the same time, be careful not to let anxiety
lead the way because unnecessary paranoia will just drive your lover away.
There are a lot of indications that he is cheating. For one thing, he will make
less demands sexually.
In a perfect world, we would be open about sharing our
correspondence with our significant others. Most times, we trust that we don’t
have to worry about who is texting or calling them, but if you notice that he
is getting protective and/or nervous when he gets a call or text, it may be cause
for alarm. Suffice it to say that there are hardened men who are not moved by
their partner’s presence when the other girl is at the other end of the phone.
You know that exhilarating feeling you get when you meet someone new; you want
to tell the world about him.
A friend Charles recalls that one of his exes began talking
about a guy a lot near the end of their relationship. “He just always seemed to
be at her social gatherings that I didn’t happen to attend. Sure enough, after
she dumped me, she began dating him”.
Even though relationships ebb and flow naturally, if you are
sensing that he is drawing away from you, then there may be someone else.
Emotional disconnect should be investigated regardless of whether it is caused
by cheating. There’s a problem if he is not laughing or seeming as passionate
as usual. It’s hard to spread love/passion between two people, so the person
who used to have it will feel it slipping away if it’s being given to someone
else. If he is disappearing, traveling or unavailable to the point where you
are starting to wonder, then he could be cheating. Also, these times tend to
take on a pattern because it is tough to synch up schedules, especially in
secret. His friends will certainly remain loyal to him in most cases.
They will not let you know what’s going on, but they will
definitely be racked with guilt, and their behaviour may change slightly when
they are around you while protecting his secret. If you catch him in a lie,
your trust will naturally be damaged. Do not hold a grudge – forgiveness is a
good thing. If he consistently breaches your trust, its establishing a pattern
of behaviour that leads to cheating. Do yourself a favour if he continues
lying: get out while you can and don’t let him talk his way back in. its often
said; once a cheat, always a cheat. If he’s done it before, he is capable of
doing it again. It has nothing to do with you, which is why you can’t say he
cheated on his previous lover because she didn’t keep him happy. Cheating is a
self serving act in which the cheat(er) doesn’t take his significant other into
consideration. If someone is upfront with you that he’s made mistakes in the
past, maybe give them a chance but make it a long probationary period before
you let your guard down.
Do not ignore your sixth sense, people are gifted to sense
when something is not getting right. Whether there are red flags in your
relationship that are clueing you in or not, if something feels off, don’t
ignore this feeling. Usually that feeling is right and something intangible may
have led to you figuring it all out.
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