Whether you were dating for a few months, in a long-term
relationship or married, breaking is hard to do. The good news is that life
does get better.
Below are some tips to help you get over him and move on with
your life.
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Get it all out: Cry, scream and feel sorry for yourself. Wallow in self pity.
However, while you are wallowing, you will suddenly say, hey, I don’t feel like
wallowing anymore, I think I deserve to be better. Believe me you will feel
better and each day after, you will even fell much better. Soon, something
amazing would happen, you will rediscover your smile and actually laugh at who
you were back then.
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Focus on today: Take things one step at a time, one day at a time. If you
start looking towards or thinking above next week, next month or next year, you
will feel overwhelmed. Don’t look at the broader picture yet, temporary limit
your view, so to speak.
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Think positively: If
you think you are bitten, you are and vice versa. Success begins with your own
will, its all in your state of mind. Life’s battles are not always won by those
who are stronger or faster. Sooner or later, the person who wins is the person
who thinks he can.
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Don’t stay bitter: People
differ a lot both in character and otherwise. After my divorce, I became
extremely bitter and angry. I did not trust anyone, particularly women,
isolating myself, says a divorcee. Hey why not! No contact, no pain and no
gain. Hear this, if you isolate yourself, you create an Island, but in the end,
Island sinks. Being bitter is normal – its
simply a stage you are going to go through. But move past it quickly.
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Have no fear: Don’t
let your fears cripple you. Most times, what we are afraid of never come to
pass. Other times, our fears are exaggerated. The more we worry, the bigger and
the worse the fear or hurdle seems.
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Do something new: Slowly
get involved in something new, be it a new job, volunteer work, anything you
can think of. By keeping busy or focusing yourself on something makes you an
independent being, the healing process will be a healthy process.
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