GETTING INTIMATE ABOVE 40

Intimacy is one word that defines a good working relationship. You get intimate because you really want a relationship to work. You want to feel loved and love the person back, not because he/she is the perfect match but because love is a natural thing. This all encompassing word could be very challenging and varies with age. Relationship for youths is given a different definition from the older folks. Youthful marriage is always vibrant, lively, sparkling, full of desperation etc, but this tend to decrease with age. The older they become, the less attractive they find the relationship. With this, one would be prompted to ask if it’s not the same set of couples that
used to live as if they will be separated from each other the next minute.

Yes, when we get older, our hormones tend to change and deviate from their known physiological trait. In females, estrogens exhibit pre-menopausal character. The radiating friendship between the couples becomes a shadow of itself. The truth is, we can rekindle that relationship any far we can. If we can imagine it, then there is no stopping us. Remember those things you did together when the sun was still rising, you can achieve them during sunset, it’s still the same procedure, the only difference is time. Change could be the most challenging thing in our life, yet, it is the evidence of our existence. It is very difficult to adapt to, yet fun to have it come around.

Envisaging what it could turn out to be when we put a little effort to spice up our relationship as it gets older is a key to remaining in it and enjoying it the more. Little wonder they say any good wine tastes better with each passing day. Taking into account those things that used to make the day when the going was good would as well make sense and smoothen the rough ages. Only if you believe, you can overcome those natural phenomena and make the clock tick to your favour. Who says older couples don’t visit the beach, pass nights away from home, take a cruise or do those things synonymous with fresh couples.

Virginia Lucroles in her words say; “my husband and I always ensure we take a cruise at least four (4) times a year. Our marriage life has never been a dull one because we never allowed it to, age hasn’t made us forget the way we used to be. It hasn’t taken anything away from us, not even now our children have all gotten married”. Mrs. Lucroles 65 has been married for over thirty years and still enjoys her marriage. She believes intimacy is the reason behind any long lasting relationship. I wouldn’t get my eyes off him whenever we are together and he kept telling me how much I mean to him, she continued.

She is only one out of the numerous thousands who still enjoy their marriage after so many years. Some do, even when the marriage didn’t produce any fruit (marriage). There is little or no justification whatsoever not to enjoy this everlasting institution, it is that which has been pre-destined and is made to stand the taste of time. It come with its ups and down though but not enough reason to walk out of it. Not even good enough to live in it as cat and dog.

Remember, no one is a shadow of himself unless they choose to be. Getting intimate could make you become that perfect partner you’ve ever dreamt of.