WHAT IF YOU'VE JUST BEEN DUMPED?

She tried all she could to see that the relationship moved to the next level but his randy adventure ended her dream. Chike got another woman pregnant and as their tradition demands, must marry her.
More to some than to others, but chances are that at some stage of our illustrious dating career, we’ve been dumped, left behind, discarded like
an old blouse, found to be no longer suitable.
It hurts, I know and I’m sure many of us know as well. So what now? People do the strangest things, some are known to have gone wacko, others even considered suicide. Many would inflict all kinds of physical discomfort to go with the mental anguish and suffering to worsen their misery and pain. But as relationship experts would say; it’s all in your attitude.
You know you need to move on sooner or later, why not make it sooner and short circuit some of that pain. Re-adjust your attitude from ‘woe is me’ to ‘thank goodness they are gone, to make space in my life for the person that is right for me’. Get that shift of thinking going and get out there to find them.
Really, it can be a mine field out there if you don’t understand the rules. It’s been said many times; it’s a jungle out there. Will you be the prey or the predator?
Almost everyone seems to be into one or more broken hearts. With all the practice, you would think break-ups would become easier to deal with. Alas, being dumped is one of the toughest situations many people have to surmount. One saving grace is that almost everyone dumped seeks out love again. If someone has just broken your heart and the one thing you want to hear is that, ‘there are other fishes in the sea’ then you’ve got the right attitude.
One big step in moving on with your life is to formalize it. You need to ask your partner why they want to end the relationship. In some situations, the reasons are simply obvious, yet, it still helps to get burning questions off your chest. Don’t show any weakness to your ex. If they can’t appreciate the wonderful human being in you, then all your crying and begging will most likely fall on deaf ears. If you want to rant and rave, then do so, in the privacy of your own home. If you are completely livid, then write out all your emotions in a letter to your ex, only refrain from actually sending it to them. Re-reading your letter every time you need to work through your frustrations gradually helps to ease the pain. Be sure to spend time with friends and family, even if it’s the last thing you feel like doing. Embrace your inner sense and independence and reconnect with yourself.
The best way to cut those heart strings is by ridding your ex’s shadow from your daily life. Go ahead and pack all mementos like pictures, gifts and notes into a shoe box to be discarded. Sever all links between you and your ex, refrain from taking their calls and restrict e-mail access from them. Don’t visit places where you may be inundated with a flood of emotional memories because you may end up running into your ex, most likely, with a new mate in tow. If you and your ex share common friends, then keep in touch by e-mail. Apply the golden rule of not enquiring into your ex’s new life without you. Friends are in a tough spot, so don’t put them in a position to choose between the two of you.
Give yourself some few months before entering into another serious relationship. There is no sense in rushing headfirst into anything. Life may be short but almost all of us are eventually lucky in love. When all is said and done and your last tear has fallen, then muster up some hope, for cupids arrow may be heading your way.